Thursday, April 01, 2004

It's April Fools' Day... so what... Yahoo? I can get tricks and pranks played on me today? WTH... I hate it when ppl try to play extreme tricks on you... What's extreme... oh, those kinds where you can literally feel your heart jump when someone tells you something, and when you find out it's a joke, you don't know whether to laugh or punch that sonofabitch... I don't think it's funny when you nearly get a heart attack... Imagine you play a prank on that person and he collapses due to heart attack... Would you still jump out and say April Fools? I don't think so... I think you'd crap in your pants...

Enough about April Fools... I hate stupid days like that... Well... as some of you already know, I'm on MC til Sat, cos of my wisdom teeth which got extracted yesterday... So I'm stoning at home, watching Smallville, when I see Lana Lang telling someone that so-and-so's ok, it's just that there weren't any 'sparks'... And that set me thinking... In relationships, is that what really keeps 2 ppl so close together?? That elusive chemistry some ppl just have... that 'spark' to keep the relationship going... Is there really such a thing? Or is it cos the attraction between 2 ppl become so strong that this chemistry just happens?

I know there are lots of types of attraction... mutual attraction, physical attraction... and of course... sexual attraction... I guess out of all this, there comes a point where sexual attraction is strongest... Probably due to man's most basic of needs... To eat, live and procreate... Maybe this 'spark' is the culmination of all these attractions between 2 ppl... And if it is... would it ever lose its strength? Or would it last thoughout... Hence ppl finding their 'One'...

Then again, I feel that any relationship requires commmitment and understanding, of course that attraction for each other should also be there... as that's what puts the spice in the relationship... But in my 20+ years, I've seen ppl who look so compatible together, seems to share this chemistry... when all of a sudden, after 2, 3 years, they just break up, citing reasons like difference in goals or absence of love... But really... if this chemistry is so strong, how can it just disappear like that? What's changed? Is it because ppl are too busy to keep the romance alive? Always working and studying... barely having time for each other... Then again, there are couples who seem to have it down pat... Juggling work and relationships... even finding time to be alone with each other... So what's missing from others that these have?

I guess it has to be commitment... to each other and the relationship... ppl just get so busy with work and school that they forget to spend time with one another... communication gets worse and soon, arguments happen... small ones at first, very minor... then they escalate into major ones... But I don't mean we shouldn't argue... by all means, quarrel... just make up afterwards and try to relight that so-called spark...

Whenever frens ask me for advice in relationships, I don't claim to be good in relationships, maybe I'm able to give an outsider's POV... In any case, I'll always try to ask this one question... 'Are you happy in your relationship?' I mean, is it THAT hard to see whether you're happy? I mean, you may have quarrels and such, but at the end of the day, do you end up wondering y you 2 got together in the first place, or are you just happy that you 2 are together?? To me, being happy in a relationship is of utmost importance... If you're happy, then you're willing to do things for your other half, you'll enjoy each other's company more... you'll never feel sian with each other... then you'll be able to communicate, support each other... I feel that's most important... Everyone pursues happiness in life... if you're not happy, life would be such a drag... having friends whom you can turn to can also make one feel blessed... but there's a level of comfort and happiness that cannot be reach unless you're in a happy relationship...

So I ask of all those couples out there... Are You Happy??
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