Friday, June 23, 2006
Half of me doesn't really want to go... don't really know y... but the other half of me is actually relishing the fact that I AM going... Somehow... I feel that I just need this trip to get away from everything... Take a step back... Re-evaluate my life...
Guess maybe I'm just not getting what I thought I could get... or maybe the reactions I get don't justify the actions I've taken... I need to know y... and that isn't easy...
I do hope I'll be able to find what I need over there... Considering that the last time I went Aus, I came back determined to put my entire heart into something to make things work... Who knows... maybe this trip really is what I need again...
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A LOT OF THINGS MIGHT HELP you in your relationship, but when you try to sift out the most important, your ability to deal with conflict will be at or near the top of the list.
Would you like to experience less conflict? Would you like to feel calmer during conflicts? Would you like to resolve them easier? Here's how: Remember whatever is happening is temporary. There are several reasons this principle is so important.
When someone assumes her problem is permanent, it can lead to depression, according to Martin Seligman, one of the top researchers in his field. Assuming that something bad is permanent is one of the biggest contributors to the downward spiral of depression, and depression is the most common psychological problem people experience — and one of the most destructive. Merely being disheartened is a mild form of depression. Although it's milder, it happens more often. When you feel disheartened, you want to stop trying. This not only feels bad, it makes you less capable of dealing well with conflict.
Coming from an entirely different angle, Buddha tried to find out what caused suffering. By his own assessment, one of his most important findings is that when people fail to accept the temporary nature of things, they suffer more than they need to. According to Buddha (and I happen to agree with him on this), this lack of acceptance that things are temporary and always changing is one of the main sources of suffering for humanity.
When Abraham Lincoln was in the White House, he experienced stress, and that is an understatement if I've ever made one! Soldiers were getting slaughtered by the tens of thousands and Lincoln was the one sending them to their tragic deaths. He was a deeply empathetic man, so this tremendous slaughter caused him immense despair and sadness and pain. But it needed to be done, and decisions needed to be made every day. To keep himself calm enough to deal with it, he often said to himself, this too shall pass. He used this phrase as a kind of mantra. He was able to maintain his rationality and carry out his duties at a crucial time in history — largely by reminding himself again and again that whatever is happening is temporary.
This too shall pass. The one constant in this universe is that everything changes. Remind yourself of this and you'll suffer less. You'll get disheartened less often and less intensely. And — back to our original purpose — you'll deal with conflict better.
Say that phrase to yourself next time you feel upset about something. Use it as a mantra. The circumstances that caused the upset will change — maybe not all of them, but some parts of your circumstances will change all by themselves fairly quickly. And remind yourself that your feelings will change inevitably, even if you do nothing to change them. You won't stay upset forever. I know this is obvious to you now, but when you're upset, you tend to forget this important truth.
It's a simple idea, but it can dramatically ease the strain of the moment, making you better able to deal with it, creating less stress in your body, and making you a calmer person to interact with.
Say to yourself in times of stress:
This too shall pass.
What he says is quite true... In many arguments, things don't get resolved because one party is still emotional and hence irrational about everything... No matter how hard the other party tries, the former won't be willing to listen... So sometimes it's good to take a step back and cool things down...
Think there are more articles at this site...
youmeworks.com
Others who are interested can check it out...
Here's something else I found that is quite thought provoking...
BEING HAPPY
A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready.
As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window.
"I love it ," he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.
"Mr. Jones, you haven't seen the room; just wait."
"That doesn't have anything to do with it," he replied.
"Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged ... it's how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. "It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do.
Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away. Just for this time in my life.
Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you've put in.
So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories! Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing." Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
Works very well in present society... hehe...
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Monday, June 19, 2006
Sony Ericsson K750i!! Such a fun phone!! Been taking pictures a lot more since I've gotten this phone... Just too bad it lags if I take large sized pictures... so now I reduced the pictures to medium size... Still looks nice though... take a look...
The camera is really damn good... take the night mode for example...
Without night mode...
WITH night mode!! So different!!
So different!! Hehe... That's a good camera... hee... The following pictures are just some random ones I've been taking these days.. hehe..
Nice sunflowers!!
Renault's F1 car at the Millenia Walk foyer...
Front view... Stupid guy on the left was blocking..
Nice pics right? All taken with the camera phone... hehe... it's better than my old camera man!!
I also went to watch CARS!! It's a damn nice movie!! Even if I had to pay $12, I'd pay it to watch it man!! It's THAT good!! Damn farney and cute lah!! I liked the parts in the movie like the multi level car spoilers... and the one 'man' pit crew... Damn farney lah!! Ahaha!! Only those ppl who've watched it know what I'm talking about... hehe... So, if you're curious... GO WATCH IT!! CALL ME ALONG!! I WANNA WATCH IT AGAIN!!
Hehe... went to The Cathay to watch it... and after that....
Ben and Jerry's!!! *DROOOOOL*
Ahah... Think the girl at the counter thinks I'm cute... =x I paid for a 2 scoop one... but see!! I got 3 scoops!! Wahahaha!!! Then while I was there... I took a few more pics of the cathay... check it out!!
Inside the new Cathay!! So white and clean!!
The fountain shut down for the day... =(
The Cathay!!
Of course I took the last picture outside... ahah... Anyway... gotta go koon now... long day tmr... But before that... one last thing to say... HAPPY FATHERS' DAY!!
Happy Fathers' Day!!
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Tuesday, June 06, 2006
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Thursday, June 01, 2006
Especially when you come back from a tiring dance class only to see that your lift has broken down... AND YOU STAY ON THE 21ST FLOOR!!!
And yes... I had to take the stairs all the way up... haiz... stupid upgrading...
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